How can I tell if this girl likes me or if shes a tease? This is a confusing one.

[TheLoneGamer]

Ive known this girl for about 4 years, however we are internet friends. We havent actually met, but we do know what we look like via pictures that we asked the other person to pose specifically so we know its not fake. She told me that she is in love with a guy, her best friend (but he is getting married to another person so she feels heartbroken), but not me. But she told me not to give up on her. Also she told me also that she doesnt actually like me at all, but yet keeps telling me im Cute, and just recently when i shaved off my beard she said, "I never noticed you were that cute before". Then Out of NOWHERE, sends me a picture of her in a sexually revealing position in her underwear, then told me that she was just feeling, in her exact words, "crazy ". And every time i ask her out, she says, "ill think about it, maybe, and we'll see." She also says she wants to have sex with me in different occasions, but she said that quote "ill F*** you but i wont marry you" knowing that I cant have sex before marriage.

We Talk about the dirtiest things, for example, pornography and sex. And everytime we talk on the phone or on the internet via Voice Aim, i would like to quote my friend, who was in the room at the time, "It sounds like that you two had phone sex, or cybered" . And we talked about our possible relationship, which she keeps saying, "I Like being alone".

And every single answer i get is usually from my friends is that she likes me. But it seems to me that its like that we are just Close Buddies. . .

So to summerize it all i made a list. Some new some repeated from up top.


Clues She likes me
1. Dirty Talk (I love that)
2. We Know each others familys history and background
3. She writes letters to me
4. She told me not to give up on her.
5. SHE SENT ME A PICTURE OF HER IN HER UNDERWEAR

Clues that shes just teasing me
1. SHES FRICKEN CONFUSING.

Is she a tease or does she like me??!?!

I probably posted about her before, with the title "how do I kiss" But I had to use a new account because when you searched for my screen name on google, it came out with that exact topic, and i have a suspicion that she may have found out about it, because we were searching each others screen names for fun, and that was the first thing that was on the search. Ive been a member for years.

[Zohaib]

May I ask, first of all, where exactly did you "meet" her online?

[Grey Angel]

I feel hat she's teasing you. She's playing with your emotions so that she gets the satisfaction of being attractive to someone. B/c of you, she feels important and has a sense of belonging, and whenever she wants to feel like that, all she has to do is tug on the string to make the puppet move.

I have to admit, you two seem to be very open with eachother, but if anything, you seem to be a friend with benefits, except that you can't really take advantage of those benefits on account that she's very, evasive. I mean, you can ask, her, directly, and depending on the tone, speed, and wording of the answer, you can tell if she really does like ou, or as you say, just teasing.

[TheLoneGamer]

May I ask, first of all, where exactly did you "meet" her online?

Her Friend was stalking My friend, so her friend asked her to ask me about him by randomly messaging me through AIM and try to get some info about him through me. But for some strange reason we connected.

I feel hat she's teasing you. She's playing with your emotions so that she gets the satisfaction of being attractive to someone. B/c of you, she feels important and has a sense of belonging, and whenever she wants to feel like that, all she has to do is tug on the string to make the puppet move.

I have to admit, you two seem to be very open with eachother, but if anything, you seem to be a friend with benefits, except that you can't really take advantage of those benefits on account that she's very, evasive. I mean, you can ask, her, directly, and depending on the tone, speed, and wording of the answer, you can tell if she really does like ou, or as you say, just teasing.

Exactly How I feel. She teases me all the time but yet, doesnt give me a straight answer. I asked he once how she felt about me, She wouldnt even say that I was just a friend, or say she even likes me. or even say yes to 1 date. I just dont get it. But the fact that we've known each other for years and we are so open with each other seems like the best recipe for a good relationship. . . You are the only one actually who agrees with me. All my friends say that she likes me, but then again none of them have girlfriends. . .

[Zelden]

I read this story in Wired about some old guy who met this teenage girl online. They started getting quite involved and traded pictures with each other, sent personal items and occasionally joined in "dirty talk". The guy introduced one of his co-workers to her and then the other guy and the girl hit it off (all on the net).

Long story short, the old guy killed the other guy from jealousy and it turned out the teenage girl was some old lady that was using her daughter's pictures and underwear.

Beware.

[Grey Angel]

Yea, I've dealt with these types of situations alot. She just seems to be very friendly with you, in all aspects, but just doesn't see you as boyfriend material, at least for her. If anything, you're a friend with benefits, if anything, but even that doesn't seem to make sense.

I have to say, she's an odd one, but if nothing's really happened, and she keeps bringing up other guys, then that means she has no feelings for you other than that of a very close friend. There's nothing wrong with that, but just try not to fall for her tricks.

[TheLoneGamer]

I read this story in Wired about some old guy who met this teenage girl online. They started getting quite involved and traded pictures with each other, sent personal items and occasionally joined in "dirty talk". The guy introduced one of his co-workers to her and then the other guy and the girl hit it off (all on the net).

Long story short, the old guy killed the other guy from jealousy and it turned out the teenage girl was some old lady that was using her daughter's pictures and underwear.

Beware.

Nope. We had a webcam thingy. (will not get in depth because it would be considered obcene)

Yea, I've dealt with these types of situations alot. She just seems to be very friendly with you, in all aspects, but just doesn't see you as boyfriend material, at least for her. If anything, you're a friend with benefits, if anything, but even that doesn't seem to make sense.

I have to say, she's an odd one, but if nothing's really happened, and she keeps bringing up other guys, then that means she has no feelings for you other than that of a very close friend. There's nothing wrong with that, but just try not to fall for her tricks.

Yea. Let me spam for a while with this. :bashhead: :bashhead: :bashhead: :bashhead: :bashhead: Why? Because she was the ONLY female who actually wanted to have sex with me.

[~Sean~]

To be blunt, this situation is a far cry from.. well, anything I'm used to dealing with. The entire thing sounds sketchy, and I wouldn't continue with this if it's already been 4 years and nothing's happened. If things haven't progressed by now, they're more than likely not going to.

On a side note, I think you're better off avoiding online relationships anyway. At the risk of sounding biased, I have to mention that they're extremely hard to get through, especially when you haven't met prior to starting one. And even then, that's at the point where you two are already interested in each other for sure-- I'd be off by a long shot to call that the case thus far.

Ultimately, you'll have a much easier time if you just stay friends with her; This certainly isn't the last distance-related problem you two would face in a relationship, after all.

[Cody.]

To be blunt, this situation is a far cry from.. well, anything I'm used to dealing with. The entire thing sounds sketchy, and I wouldn't continue with this if it's already been 4 years and nothing's happened. If things haven't progressed by now, they're more than likely not going to.

On a side note, I think you're better off avoiding online relationships anyway. At the risk of sounding biased, I have to mention that they're extremely hard to get through, especially when you haven't met prior to starting one. And even then, that's at the point where you two are already interested in each other for sure-- I'd be off by a long shot to call that the case thus far

Ultimately, you'll have a much easier time if you just stay friends with her; This certainly isn't the last distance-related problem you two would face in a relationship, after all.Exactly.

I personally think online relationships are just stupid. Regardless wether the two people are positive that its not some 60 year-old pervert pretending that they are a 14 year-old boy or girl, I still don't trust them. I can go along with talking to someone specifically online, but not when things begin to get personal. If I am willing to ask someone out, I would at least want to meet them in person first before I go any further with them. Online dating just doesn't work for me.

Now to relate this with your issue, if she seems to play back and forth between to opposite feelings, and claims to have sex with you but not marry you and your standards are completely opposite from that, then I would consider it teasing. If its hard for you to tell exactly how see feels about you, then its best that you don't get too involved with the situation. Just continue being friends and just friends and watch yourself.

[Crazy Jamie]

I really don't think that this is as complicated as it's being made out. Think about this logically. One of the great draws of the internet is that it allows you to interact with strangers in any way you choose with no chance of real world repercussions. Take forums for example. People can post what they want, and even though they may be banned for doing it that doesn't affect them in the real world at all. People often act differently on the internet, because of its nature as a largely anonymous society.

This situation is no different. It sounds like this girl is doing this because it is something that only the internet can provide. It's exciting. It's thrilling. And it will have no repercussions in the real world. It's a daring activity with none of the risks, which is why she is drawn to it.

But don't be deceived. Whilst she is online talking dirty to you and everything else, she is fully involved in what she's doing. But when she turns her PC off at night or closes the chat programmes down, that's where it ends. I don't think she has any intention of turning this into a real world relationship, because it simply could not work as such. For her this is an internet fantasy. Don't make the mistake of thinking that it is anything more, because it isn't. If you can accept that, then by all means enjoy it. But if you can't, I'd highly recommend that you distance yourself from it. If it's not something you can handle without getting emotionally involved, you shouldn't be doing it.

[SegaDragon]

I think it could go either way. If she does like you, I'd say she's just waiting to meet you in person before allowing herself to develop any feelings toward you. But it's just as likely, in my opinion, that she doesn't. Along with what Jamie says, I'd say it's probably more likely that she doesn't.
How far away does she live? If it's, like, 10 miles from you, that's no big deal. If she lives in another state or something, then you definately need to move on.

[TheLoneGamer]

Damn it. . . she lives in another state. . .But damn it, shes the only one who actually likes my perverted jokes. And anyway Noone in my town likes me, due to the fact that I am really perverted.

[kittykat512]

She's definatly a tease.

[strewart]

but she said that quote "ill F*** you but i wont marry you" knowing that I cant have sex before marriage

This bit caught my eye. Do you not believe in sex before marriage? If that is the case, and she knows that, it is quite possible she thinks things will get too complicated, and as the quote said, she would go out with you, and sleep with you (but sounds like you wouldn't before marriage) but she doesn't want to spend the rest of her life with you. The thought of big commitments can often put young people of both sexes off of a certain person.

You should try not asking her out, but just seeing if she will meet you in person and see how well you two get along in real life. Make it something short and simple, like going for a light meal (lunch or mid afternoon) or just a coffee or something, so she doesn't feel like shes being pressured into something and can easily leave without having to spend hours with you if things get awkward, and the same the other way around if you start getting uncomfortable.

Other than that point, I agree with what others have said that people act differently on the internet simply because they can and its anonymous, and she is quite possibly just teasing you to make herself feel more important.

[TheLoneGamer]

As I read more and more of the comments you guys made, it seems to me that to her I am some sort of puppet that she likes to play with . . . When ever she wants to feel like in control, she would talk dirty to me, Like a master holding a piece of bacon in front of a dog. . . Id beg for it, then the master will deny it. Its seems more to me that shes a dominatrix . . .

Maybe I should tease her? At least thats what one of my friends say. Tease her, but in a fun way. I wonder what i have that i can tease her with . . .

[strewart]

Absolutely, teasing girls back is a great thing to do. When she starts talking dirty next time, let it go like normal for a minute or two, then stop and say something like you aren't in the mood. Basically just enough to get her working herself up, then suddenly cut, and start talking about normal things. Be less available, don't go online as often, take a bit longer to reply sometimes so it looks like you are doing other things, and don't stay on for too long. There are plenty of little things that you can do that will make you seem more desirable, more attractive and more of a challenge to her.