I'm pathetic.

[Cardinal]

First of all, here's some background info:

This girl and I used to be great friends; we'd talk for hours on end, and she told me some... uh... personal stuff, which you wouldn't just tell to anyone. That was 2 years ago, when I was in 7th grade and she was in 8th. Of course I was a tool back then , and didn't do anything to show her that I liked her. Well, the next year, she was a freshman and even though we were in the same building, we didn't see each other at all. We barely talked at all, and kind of just stopped being friends.

Well, now I'm a freshman, and I see her every day. However, I just don't know what to say to her. This wouldn't be that big of a deal, but... I just can't stop thinking about her. I want to be able to talk to her like we used to, but I just can't force myself to do it. The few times we have talked this year, I just kind of run out of things to say and it gets awkward. I don't know why (I have plenty of friends that are girls that I can carry on a conversation with), and it's really starting to bother me.

So... I really need advice. I don't want to just keep being this way. I would really, really like to be with her. So yeah, thanks.

[Cody.]

Your not the only one who has experienced this, infact this has happened to me multiple times.

I believe its just simply the fact that you guys haven't really seen or talk to each other for so long now, (considering it was basically an entire school year for you.) And you guys have been separated for the time being, met new friends, hungout with other people, etc. So when you just suddenly meet up with each other again and have the opportunity to hangout like the old days, your completely outdated with each other, and its hard to think of what to say besides the general stuff like; "Hi, how are you?" and such.

One thing I do in situations like such is to just renew myself with that person again, see how things have been, what's new with them, etc. Then I'll bring up the things that were most memorable in the past, which is usually events that made us laugh and that is a good conversation to start off with usually.

Then after I have been talking to them for a little while, I plan times when we can hangout some more, wether its before school, after school, on the weekend, etc. Whatever works for both of us then we shortly start to get back into the swing of things again and just move on from there. So why don't you try to focus on more events with each other rather than just the general discussions and see how that works out for you, it always seems to move along faster if you hangout with the person and help bring back the old days instead of acting like you just barely met the person again.

I hope this helps.

Edit: You could also try pinpointing main things you do or say with your other girl friends and use those next time you talk to her.

[Phoenix]

Well, first off sup Kirk.
Secondly, needs less Halo 3 and more girl talking.

Since Cody's post is pretty tl;dr, I'm going to shoot my logical reasoning at you.

You say you don't talk that much, so there's not much more you can lose. So, why not just asking her to go to a movie or the mall or something. Just hang out and talk about things going on around school, ask her how she is doing. Talk about recent movies, you know, the usual stuff.

When I talk to you-know-who, it's usually us saying what's been going on recently then the other 80% is just f*cking around and making jokes, and since you're a pretty funny guy you shouldn't have any problem doing that.

If you keep the fear of messing up, then there isn't really much hope since you're going to think of something then decide whether or not she'll like it or if you'll embarrass yourself and while that is happening she is sitting in awkward silence. Just say it, if you two don't work out then obviously it's not supposed to.

So to sum it all up, just go for it.

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[Grey Angel]

I agree with the fact that you should kinda start from scratch. I mean, if you two were great friends before, then that means that you could be great friends or more now. So just go up to her, strike a short conversation, and before you leave, ask her if you two can hang out and catch up on missed time. It's not to aggressive to make her think you're hitting on her, and it's perfect to get closer to her. In fact, by you knowing her from before, you have a great base, and if she refuses, try and get a contact so you can stay in touch. If neither doesn't work, just give it a bit more time, all will be fine in the end if you are confident, and sure of yourself. Those are two important keys that everyone should have, especially for conversation.

[~Sean~]

I agree with Cody here; You've got to re-establish some regular contact with her, and then you can proceed from there.

In addition, I'd like to menton that this situation isn't all bad.. I'd look at it as a mixed blessing. The fact that you remained friends with her for so long before would've made things more difficult, as far as starting a relationship goes. She probably saw you as someone who was 'just a friend' at that point in time, whereas now you've got a chance to start over.

So at this point, you may have a better chance, despite the fact that you don't know her as well. You'll have to get to know her again and see what's changed in her life, but otherwise there shouldn't be many problems. Just remember not to make the same mistake as before.. try some flirting this time around to get the message across.

[Crazy Jamie]

Sean is right. You're actually in a better position here than you realise. Re establishing that contact may well be difficult considering how easily you could talk to her before, but the fact that you've drifted gives you a chance to re establish that contact on different grounds. Her trusting you so much in the past is going to work in your favour regardless, but when talking to her this time try to throw in some flirting as well and see how she responds. That'll give you the best opportunity to move the situation to something more than just really good friends. She'll have the memories of before, but will also need to get to know you again. Use those memories to your advantage whilst moving into new ground when getting to know her again.