How To Quit Smoking [Was Girls Advice Needed]

[Haze]

Ok, this is going to seem like a silly question but I'm going to ask it anyways.

I met this girl at college, I'm attracted to her. [Long story in a nutshell] I have been hiding from her that I smoke cigarettes just incase she found them disgusting. Well today she saw me smoking a cigarette as I walked past her. She says, "Oh, you smoke?" Is this a bad sign? To girls find it unattractive when guys smoke if they don't smoke? Is this even a big deal if she does find it disgusting?

[Boots]

You can't generalize like you're trying to.

Some people are turned off by it. Others it doesn't matter to.

You've got to recognize though that she noticed you and was intrigued in one way or another, which is generally a good sign, no?

She was probably just surprised. One thing important in relationships is honesty. Hiding stuff just screws you over in the long run.

[Shoryuken]

Hiding stuff just screws you over in the long run.
Indeed it does. Big time.

If she is turned off by it, just don't do it around her. Go away for a moment to do it. Best thing to do IMO is just ask if it bothers her. If she hates it completely and doesn't want to see you do it ever, maybe you should just quit. It's bad for you anyway.

[kittykat512]

Yea. If she doesn't like it go somewhere else. If she doesn't really care you should still do it somewhere else. (Second Hand Smoke eh?) But I think the best option is for you to stop. My friend smokes. And it's tearing up his life already...:(

[Grey Angel]

Yea, you're doing what my coach says I used to do, and still kind of do. You're trying to mind-read, or guess what other people are thinking about you. In this case, you're thinking negativly b/c it's the one thing that's endangering this shot at a relationship with her. What you want to do, is like mentioned by the others, ask and/or quit. guessing will only mess you up.

[Cody.]

Like Boots said, it can differ for each person on how they are to react to a smoker, if someone doesn't know you every well or at all, their first impression will most likely be negative and they won't find you very attractive, or they just won't care. If they do know you, they would think pretty much the same thing I would imagine, except they would have more "respect" for you considering that your a close person to them, and they won't try and "avoid" you in any way. So basically you'll never know unless you ask them.

And secondly, I also agree with the fact that you should keep things as such a secret from people you care about, if you think that you are doing something that will upset another person you care about or make them less attracted to you then its ultimatly best not to do that habit around that person in the first place, but you defanatly shouldn't keep it a secret from them. Its your habit anyways, if it satisfies you then you should talk to the person about it and see how they feel about it, they aren't going to dislike you for smoking. So if your concerned that someone may find your smoking habit a bad one or unattractive, then talk to them, see what can be situated incase they do find your habit unattractive.

Hope this helps.

Edit: Shouldn't ;)

[SegaDragon]

The easiest thing to do is just ask her if she minds. Or even if she smokes herself. I don't think anyone would be offended, care, or even think if suspicious in the least if someone asked them such a question.

"Oh, you smoke?" could mean, "Oh, you smoke [too]? "
Or, "[i]Oh, you smoke? [Disgusting.]"

Just ask her.

[Quagmire]

Also, maybe it can be a good incentive for you to stop. I know you're not suppose to change yourself for someone else, be who you are. But if she doenst like it, maybe it can be motivation for you to stop smoking since it isnt healthy.

[Haze]

Ah, thanks everyone for your advice. I will take everything said into consideration.

By the way, I realize that smoking is bad for you. I heard it a million times and most likely will hear it another million times in the near future. I have been trying to quit but It's harder than what you think. Thanks though.

[Boots]

You can't quit smoking for someone else. It is something you have to do for yourself, on your own terms. Otherwise you'll just end up resenting that person or go back to smoking and they'll nag you.

[Quagmire]

Ah, thanks everyone for your advice. I will take everything said into consideration.

By the way, I realize that smoking is bad for you. I heard it a million times and most likely will hear it another million times in the near future. I have been trying to quit but It's harder than what you think. Thanks though.
I know you have, and yeah I have no idea how hard it is to quit

Boots, I believe that if you have someone you really care about supporting you, telling you wonderful things about how much progress you are making that it will help keep you motivated. It isnt only quiting for her, but it is also quiting for himself. But everyone is different.

[Haze]

I know you have, and yeah I have no idea how hard it is to quitLet me give you an example. It seems like everyday I can't go a day without smoking. If I don't smoke, I physically can't see how I can make it through the day. It's sort of like breathing. How the hell can you make it through a day without breathing? I ask the same question about smoking. If I don't smoke, I usually get these damn urges or twitches to smoke. When I finally obtain the buzz that I wanted, it's the best feeling ever. I have cut back ALOT. I was almost up to a pack a day. Now I smoke about 1 cigarette every two or three days. I'm almost there. :)

Boots, I believe that if you have someone you really care about supporting you, telling you wonderful things about how much progress you are making that it will help keep you motivated. It isnt only quiting for her, but it is also quiting for himself. But everyone is different.Well put. To be honest, I have no reason to quit, noone is going to kill me, my parents don't care etc. I have been trying to quit for myself. I workout almost 5 days a week, while trying to quit. I want to be in better health. I'm in good shape, but I want better health. I have been trying to quit for myself for awhile now, the girl just helps a little bit. I have no outside motivation since most of my friends smoke, they call me names all the time for trying to quit. I don't care what the hell they think, I do it for myself.

[kittykat512]

I'm trying to convince my friend. He's too young to get Nicorette so, we have to physically motivate him...he's very stubborn so I do belive it will take a while...

[Quagmire]

I'm trying to convince my friend. He's too young to get Nicorette so, we have to physically motivate him...he's very stubborn so I do belive it will take a while...
If he can get cigs underage, I am sure he can get Nicorette under age. Only makes sense. Someone is buying him cigs.

[Wicked]

Just do what you do, I mean, if you smoke, you smoke. If she can't accept that, then she's not that into you. If she is, she'll get past it.

[Cody.]

If your trying to quit smoking, you could also try to find some easy and enjoyable ways to substitute smoking for something else, such as a piece of gum to chew on, or a sucker, or maybe even a pretzel stick. Whatever else keeps you satisfied that would help keep the cigarettes away. Its what my dad did for awhile and it got rid of his smoking habit.