Don't know what to do.

[Badly Drawn Boy]

OK, so two weeks ago, I moved away from home to university, and obviously, everything is great. Anyway, one of the girls that is on the same floor as me, (in fact, one door down opposite me) I think likes me, and I like her as well. A few people have hinted that she likes me, and a few of the things she does hints at it as well, such as wanting to borrow my clothes, and even falling asleep in my bed.

The only bad thing about this is that I don't know what to do. I mean, yes, obviously having a girlfriend would be great, but she would be my first real girlfriend, and she's had a few boyfriends before. This is what is holding me back from liking her more, my own inexperience, and the fact that not many girls have liked me before, and those that have aren't as attractive as she is. Not only that, and I know I shouldn't think this, but if we were to get together, then split up, it would make the rest of this year awkward.

I'm really confused, a little help please anyone?

[Victoria]

So in other words, you're afraid to start something just because someday it will end and think that that's worse than never having it in the first place?

[Grey Angel]

Alright, i got you right here man. What you want to do is just go with it! Don't go looking at the stats of both of you relationships. I mean, if a girl likes you alot, and you like her, that's a good sign that things will go well for you two, especially if it's your first. i mean, you can have as many relationships as you want, doesn't mean your good at keeping one, yiou've just been in one. To gain experience to do things such as kissing, hugging or whatever else you wish to include in that criteria. Other than that, nothing you need to worry about, and if she really likes you, she won't be mean to you just b/c you can't kiss or get happy all the time when you two are together, I mean, it's a first relationship thing, but it'll pass in time.

[The_virus]

Here, I've got just the thing for you right here in my pocket...*SLAP*

First of all, not dating someone because you know they've got a bit more experience than you is silly. It's just part of the story that brought the person to where you met them. Plus, if you're nervous and aren't sure exactly what's involved in getting a relationship started...wouldn't it be better to hook up with someone who's done it a few times? Looking for only people who are just as inexperience as yourself would make things a boatload of awkward, methinks.

Next comes your self-esteem...or rather a lack thereof.

Lesson #1) Watch the movie "Swingers" (1996) with Vince Vaghn.

You've got to think you're money. Don't be cocky, just see the value in yourself. Namely, you want to know the person intimately, that other people find attractive. That guy who thinks you're nothing special and wonders why people like you at all? He's a jerk, don't listen to that little doubting voice.

Lastly; the neighbour issue. She's fallen asleep in your bed...that's not a neighbour, that's a friend who trusts you not to be a creep. However it's not like you guys share a kidney. Seeing your exes around is something you'll just have to get used to one day. Sure it might not be the best situation, but life would go on. Plus why are you thinking about the breakup anyway? You haven't even started any form of dating and you've already started to develop a defeatist attitude! The rest of the year would NOT be awkward, you know why? The quality of your year at university does not depend on you having an awesome relationship with this one girl. What it does depend on, is you making sure you enjoy yourself, and your studies.

Not doing something because you think it might not work out perfectly has got to be one of the more boring ways to spend your life.

[Quixotron]

First off, you need a confirmation if she wants to be with you, before you're ready to go second base. You should ask her gfs and other male friends for the inside scoop.

It sounds like to me that she's just teasing you. You really need to know whats on her mind, for real. If she says like she wants to be friends or you're sweet, then your chances of being with her are pretty much zero.

I suggest you have someone follow her after class and see where she goes. and be careful...alot of girls just pretend to be nice to you or flatter you to get something out of you. don't trust anyone!

[The_virus]

I suggest you have someone follow her after class and see where she goes. and be careful...alot of girls just pretend to be nice to you or flatter you to get something out of you. don't trust anyone!

That's horrible advice. Get someone to follow her? What could that possibly accomplish? Prove that like many human beings she also shops for groceries?

I do agree that finding out what she's in the market for would probably be a good idea though. I think you brought up a valid point there. That kind of info is best to get straight from the horse's mouth though, take out the 'middle man' and just get that stuff yourself, from her.

[Badly Drawn Boy]

OK, so now I think the whole thing has moved forward a bit. We've led next to each other a few times, and shes played with my hair, and I've done the same to her, and massaged her neck and such like. I want to tell her how I feel now, though I don't know how to do it, and I don't know how she'll take it.

[Nezero]

Ask her out.
Yo lets do this

[Quixotron]

OK, so now I think the whole thing has moved forward a bit. We've led next to each other a few times, and shes played with my hair, and I've done the same to her, and massaged her neck and such like. I want to tell her how I feel now, though I don't know how to do it, and I don't know how she'll take it.

Dood, she sounds like a tease. You can't ask her directly, becoz she'll lie, most likely or misrepresent the facts or withhold information. You need to get with her friends and see what's up.

then if I were you, make the move. But sounds like she's just flattering you to get attention, not in the would-be boyfriend way.

[Grey Angel]

Dood, she sounds like a tease. You can't ask her directly, becoz she'll lie, most likely or misrepresent the facts or withhold information. You need to get with her friends and see what's up.

Dude, teasing would actually be playing with your hair, but not letting her play with yours, which would give them the power over you by making you their boy-toy.

Anyways, yea, just ask her, but you have to be very discrete... ask her things such as, "What do you usually look for in a relationship?" and, "What do you look for in a guy?" If she names everything tht you've shown her, or most of them, but doesn't directly say it's you, go for it. Those two questions are a basic one-two combo, usually works, and in this case, I'm sure it'll work because, well, it's quite evident that she'll answer them truthfully.

[~Sean~]

OK, so now I think the whole thing has moved forward a bit. We've led next to each other a few times, and shes played with my hair, and I've done the same to her, and massaged her neck and such like. I want to tell her how I feel now, though I don't know how to do it, and I don't know how she'll take it.

That would be more than enough to motivate me to make a move. She's sending all the right signals-- You've just got to have confidence in that and go for it. If I were you, I'd feel really good about my chances right now.

EDIT: I'd also like to point out one more thing, here..

Dood, she sounds like a tease. You can't ask her directly, becoz she'll lie, most likely or misrepresent the facts or withhold information. You need to get with her friends and see what's up.

That's the behavior you can expect from her friends.. not her. It's always better to be direct; friends can be biased and they can cause a lot of confusion throughout a relationship. You want her, not a game of telephone.

[Quixotron]

Dude, teasing would actually be playing with your hair, but not letting her play with yours, which would give them the power over you by making you their boy-toy.

Anyways, yea, just ask her, but you have to be very discrete... ask her things such as, "What do you usually look for in a relationship?" and, "What do you look for in a guy?" If she names everything tht you've shown her, or most of them, but doesn't directly say it's you, go for it. Those two questions are a basic one-two combo, usually works, and in this case, I'm sure it'll work because, well, it's quite evident that she'll answer them truthfully.
I disagree. If he tries to ask her, that will be a dead give away, then she'll lay him for a big sap. I think he should just drop the whole thing cold turkey. then he'll send amessage that he ain't no fool.

[Nezero]

Exactly, just ask her out on a date.
You get your answer straight away unless it one of those I'm busy but I'm not and I just don't like you or I'm actually busy.

[Quixotron]

Exactly, just ask her out on a date.
You get your answer straight away unless it one of those I'm busy but I'm not and I just don't like you or I'm actually busy.

Yeah, like "i like you for a friend" or " you're sweet." Those are harsh ways a agl can shoot a guy down. I do admit that the direct aproach has it merits but how can he trust her?

[Bird Flu]

Wow, I hate to say it, but you sound really superficial.