Umm. . . How do i kiss?

[IsaakFenris]

well i have NEVER gone out on a date (even though my mom says im handsome, LOL LMAO jk. . . im being lame) mainly because im not confident enough, but finally, i asked someone out but she put me on hold (shes an internet friend whove i known for 4 years) and we are soon going to meet. I hope. But i was wondering if there are any books or tips on kissing on the first date? especially with diagrams of actually how to do it. Im that Ignorant on how to do it.


Also, Has anyone else here met a girl online, but not on a dating site? just wondering. . .




and my poll is just asking when you had your first kiss.

[Ctp]

The only real advice I can give you here is to do what feels right. Probably doesn't make much sense now. But you're probably young enough where this girl isn't going to be expecting you to be some kind of Cassanova.

[IsaakFenris]

Actually what feel right to me right now, is that shes taller than me. Which means that i have to tip toe, or to trick her into crouching a little bit. . . i kinda want it to be a surprise or something. . .

[asterisk]

You don't need as much help as you think you do. When the time comes, you'll figure it out on your own and just improve with practice. The timing is the hard part for the first kiss.. best advice is to just play by ear and hope for the best.

[Neo]

Also, Has anyone else here met a girl online, but not on a dating site? just wondering...
Yes, I have. We arranged to meet. It sucked. Never again.

and my poll is just asking when you had your first kiss.
If memory serves, I believe I was 17...:nerd:

[zergslayer2.0]

well, my first (real kiss/makeout) was two weeks ago.:wink:

[Indiana]

I was like 14.... meeting people from online sucks I met a girl from online but she lived in the same town as me just went to a different school she ended up looking totally different from the pictures I saw thank god the movie we went to see had a hot chick in it so I just focused on the hot chick and all my troubles went away. Kissing isn't as hard as you think after the first time you'll feel a lot better....I've heard a lot of girls say that guys kiss a lot rougher than other girls do so taking this into heed i tend to do things with light feet and a soft touch now so maybe take that into account as well. MAYBE if that is even true just saying what I've heard....can anyone substantiate that?

[The_virus]

Just a style pointer; you might not want to 'surprise' her. You've known her for four years, but trust me...it's all back to well...we'll say square two when you meet in person.

Just see if the chemistry is right. I find the best time to make a first kiss is when you and her are kind of having a moment where everything else around you is suddenly blocked out and you're just kind of staring at each other. This can happen anywhere; even in a crowded location, or an obviously romantic/moody one. Just try and make eye contact and hold it. You can't make it happen if she's not feeling it too, but that's the way to see if she is.

The surprise kiss has too many ways to backfire. Plus it's a pretty big invasion to make on an assumption. It's better to make eye contact and see if the feeling is right.

[IsaakFenris]

ah okay. . .Gotcha. But what about the actual kiss itself? do i pucker or just press my lips against hers? thats why i was asking for a diagram.

[The_virus]

Don't pucker, that's what you do for a peck on the cheek.

Your lower lip is the only one that moves and, and you don't actually use your lip muscles per se. You use the muscles lower down on your chin. You bring your lower lip out a bit, then up and back, letting the upper one glide across it. It looks stupid by yourself, but when she's doing it too and there's lip contact, it makes more sense. When your lips contact something, they may not actually move, but your muscles will make pressure against whatever you're kissing. It should be a smooth upwards circular motion. That's a little better than a simple kiss, but nothing overly fancy.

Then of course there's style points for advanced stuff. No need to jump the gun though, get the basics down first.

Now...how many of you fruitloops is in front of your computer trying what I described, to yourself? Be honest.

[The Spartan]

Don't pucker, that's what you do for a peck on the cheek.

A kiss determines how much you like her. If you give her a peck, she might think you as a (very, very) little bit more than a friend. (Or an inexperianced loser.)

Now...how many of you fruitloops is in front of your computer trying what I described, to yourself? Be honest.

Lol! Thank god I don't have this problem.

[Cody.]

I thought the same thing before my first kiss, basically there is no correct way or steps on how to do it, it just happens, when I had my first kiss I had no idea on what was coming.

Just play it out like they do in movies if you want an example. :)

[skater_kidd]

my mom says im handsome, LOL LMAO jk. . .

lol. My mom says the same thing to me.

Also, Has anyone else here met a girl online, but not on a dating site? just wondering. . .

Yeah, but only friends.


and my poll is just asking when you had your first kiss.

Still haven't. But I'm just 12, so it doesn't really matter I guess. =P

Now...how many of you fruitloops is in front of your computer trying what I described, to yourself? Be honest.

LMAO. I was.

[IsaakFenris]

okay. .. i guess that might work. . . Thats actually some great advice. . . Except who do i practice on. . . (COLLEGE GIRLS EXPERIMENTATION! oh wait those are just for girls. . . COLLEGE GUYS!!! wait thats not funny at all.)


Well im going to be a fruit loop for a while (kissing a picture of my favorite celebrity on the computer screen) and see if i can the basics down.

[strewart]

Yeah I was about 8 for my first kiss. It was such a big thing at the time..

Also, Has anyone else here met a girl online, but not on a dating site? just wondering. . .

Yes. Several times. Some turn out really badly, you don't click at all, and you want to leave straight away. Others, I've ended up making out with that night. It really depends on the person and whether you click with them in real life. All I can sugget is meet in public, and make whatever you do together fairly short and cheap, or free. The first meeting is just to see how well you go in person.

Actually what feel right to me right now, is that shes taller than me. Which means that i have to tip toe, or to trick her into crouching a little bit. . . i kinda want it to be a surprise or something. . .

What about sitting down? Then you two are both the same height, or at least a lot closer. Differing heights isn't really much of an issue most of the time, if you're going for a kiss she'll lean down toward you.

Don't worry about trying to make it really good or anything, just try to relax and be comfortable. Make the first kiss short, push your lips against hers then pull back a bit so you are looking into her face and smile at her. She will most likely smile back.

[HeedTheOmen13]

Some advice for you: just kiss her... don't think don't second guess just do it. If she makes a "Damn that sucked" face just say sorry that was my first kiss or if you wanna be smooth just say something like I'm glad I saved my first kiss for you.

As for me, my first kiss was when I was 6-7 with the girl that lived next to me. First makeout? I believe that was in middle school so 10-13 I guess.

[asterisk]

http://www.instructables.com/id/EIEG78TF1A4Y0X6/

[.Killswitch.]

Also, Has anyone else here met a girl online, but not on a dating site? just wondering. . .


I actually met my girlfriend on Myspace (yeah we're both lame.), but not in that perverted kinda way. We both went to the same college but didnt know it. We've been together for amost 2 years, so I'd say there's really nothing weird about meeting someone you met online. I mean, if you're having good coversations with each other, and you're both into the idea of meeting.

As for the kissing, I pretty much had the same experiences and alot of the other dudes. We were just kinda hanging out in my basement and it happened. So just go with the flow. You'll know when the time is right.

[IsaakFenris]

That website asterisx gave is very helpful. I thank you.

But heres another question. are the teen movies/shows accurate enough for me to copy?

[Nezero]

Haha that site is funny in the fact that his 'partner' seems to be quite a willing participant.

[HeedTheOmen13]

That website asterisx gave is very helpful. I thank you.

But heres another question. are the teen movies/shows accurate enough for me to copy?

Depends on which ones we are talking about. Most of those are very very very rare scenarios, which is why they are matches made in Hollywood. But I'd really like an update on you man. See if I need to break out Rob Thomas/Santana's "Smooth" for you lol

[IsaakFenris]

Nah. its alright. Im just practicing with my computer and stuffed animals. But . . . im thinking now. . . If i am just alone in a basement with her . . . I wonder what would be good make out music? Barry white seems, for older people. . ..

[`GwJumpman]

I'm 14. I'm just waiting for the right moment. I know the girl and we are great friends (one could say). I plan on asking her out on Friday. You see for my 8th grade celebration, my school is paying for us to go to Dorney Park. I think I'm gonna buy her a soda, sit down to talk to her, and after a few minutes ask. If she says yes, I'll kiss her. If not, I guess I'll just keep talking to her...or mope like a loser. Think that would work?

[IsaakFenris]

For GOD SAKES DO NOT MOPE. Omg you do not want pity. I did that once, and she just made fun of me and laughed. . . Then she just agreed to go on a date with me just because i was being cute. Show some emotion, but dont be a Pu**y. Urrggg. .. i think i might be just going on a pity date. . . But seriously, just show her that you were intrested and show some disapoinment.

[Nezero]

I think you are putting too much thought into the kiss.

[The Spartan]

No such thing. But I do agree in the fact that if you worry about it too much you might hesitate when the time is right. THAT WOULD NOT BE GOOD.

[HeedTheOmen13]

Yeah if you are going to kiss her... do it... don't second guess... don't do it too fast and f*ck it up and don't do it too slow because it'll give her time to second guess..... just take a deep breath ask her and if she says yes then kiss her...... if she says no.... well personally I would ask to be excused and find a quiet secluded place and "display ample usage of french language".

[PhoWonSickS]

I guess there's nothing wrong with meeting someone over the internet, but that hot 16 year old chick can turn out to be some 61 year old hag.. :paranoid:

So I advise you to make sure the person you're talking to is who they say they are.

[IsaakFenris]

Nah im completely sure. Shes older than me. She gave me one of those instant pics, and i sorta "peeked" in her photobucket album. Shes pretty.

[The Spartan]

Good for you! At least some of us got lucky.

[The Crowing]

I think it's a pretty individual thing, different things will be comfortable for you, and you'll incorporate that into your kissing. I remember my first kiss was pretty strange at first, I was extremely scared I was doing it wrong. We quit kissing after what seemed like (to me) maybe five or so minutes. The girl who I was kissing's friend actually timed it on her stopwatch without us knowing...apparently it was somewhere around twenty minutes long. So I don't think I did too horrible if she could tolerate my tongue in her mouth that long. :D

But seriously, just do what almost everyone else has said and just go for it, there's really nothing to be scared of.