are people born gay or choose to be gay?

[phryedrice]

ive heard this alot. dunno which side to sway. any thoughts guys?

[Fleanix]

I take it you're being sarcastic, since you can go to prison in Jamaica for being gay.

[Px2]

Not to mention someone has died from a gay-bashing incident pretty much every year.

[Schteve]

some people can be cast out of their families for admitting they're gayYeah, that's probably the biggest inhibitor to it. Most people who freely admit it, especially at a young age, usually don't have anything to lose by doing so.

[Cluck.]

im with gamertech on this one. all you p o o f s wanna do is f*ck everyone without any commitment.

marriage is so watered down these days that this is what you get.

'screw who you want, as long as your happy.'

why get married if u gonna be that selfish? you'll never have a properly successful marriage if that's your attitude.

and i don't care if you 'see it differently' because if you do then it's wrong.Warned for homoslur.

[Schteve]

I'm confused by this statement. I don't think there is such as a thing as "a gay life." There is no specific style of life required to be gay. I think the problem is that everyone is trying to invoke this great change, that all the LGTB will come out, the world will be forced to change and conform to the gay community and their style of life. No, I do not believe that is how it will work. What people need to do, is realize the complete opposite, that being LGBT is not that different from being straight. The whole point is that LGTB do not want to stand out, they just want to blend in with society and be accepted (ironically though, being "noticed" is the first step in this process). The great "change" that needs to occure is actually quite small.A good number do in fact want to be noticed as different and enjoy promoting that fact. Others simply don't. Those that do, however, generally live the stereotypical lifestyle, either because they enjoy it or it helps them show off their difference even more.