Crazy Jamie
January 26th, 2005, 10:37 AM
One of the biggest problems that people face in the world of relationships is finding out whether or not a person likes them. Often people like to have an idea of a person's feelings towards them before they ask them out to help with confidence. This section of the Instruction Manual deals with this very issue, as gives examples of many signs that can show a person's feelings towards you. Please note that these are just guidelines and are in now way solid proof that a person likes you. This list should be combined with other things that you know about the person to give you a better idea. But at the end of the day the only way to know for certain is to ask him/her out.
SIGNS THAT THEY MAY LIKE YOU
Eye contact: If you notice that the other person is constantly glancing in your direction then this may show some physical attraction. It can also be a sign when you hold eye contact with someone for a number of seconds (even more so if he or she smiles during this eye contact).
They go out of their way to speak with you: If it is obvious that a person is making an effort to speak to you when there is no need it could indicate that they like you. This can take many forms. It may involve them deliberately being in places that they know you will be (like around your locker for example) or deliberately asking you questions that they don't need to ask (such as what the homework was when they are sitting next to their best friend). Either way a person making such an effort can show that they are attracted to you.
Shyness: A lot of people get shy (also known as being 'coy') when talking to someone that they have a crush on. Even a confident person may become visible more shy if they are talking to someone that they like. This shyness is often quite obvious and easy to spot, and can be one of the better indications that a person likes you.
Taking an interest in your love life: Very often when a person doesn't have the courage to ask you out they will ask about your other love interests in order to gauge the competition. This could also take the form of taking an unusual interest in your current boyfriend/girlfriend (moreso than a friend normally would). Again this is in an effort to scope out the competition. They may even make negative comments about your love interests. By comparison you will find that the person may be very secretive about their love interests.
They seek your attention: When a person likes you they will often try to get your attention at every available opportunity. The image of a girl dropping her books in front of an attractive guy so he picks them up is a cliched image, but it does happen more often to a lesser extent. This could take the form of more obvious maneouveres such as the example above, or it could take the form of changes to behaviour patterns such as talking louder.
Their friends tell you: Be careful with this one. It is often possible to find out from their friends whether or not a particular person likes you. But it is not generally a reliable source of information and can easily be the source of a practical joke, so be very wary when using this as a guide.
Body language: Depending on a person's personality, you can gauge their attraction to you by watching their body language. This does take some experience to spot, but is generally a good indication if you can read it well. Such signs include playing with their hair or constantly shifting position. It may also be a sign that someone likes you if they are constantly trying to make bodily contact with you, such as touching your arm or playful fighting with you. However, be wary that a lot of people are just flirtacious by nature. Bodily contact means very little well dealing with people like that.
SIGNS THAT THEY MAY LIKE YOU
Eye contact: If you notice that the other person is constantly glancing in your direction then this may show some physical attraction. It can also be a sign when you hold eye contact with someone for a number of seconds (even more so if he or she smiles during this eye contact).
They go out of their way to speak with you: If it is obvious that a person is making an effort to speak to you when there is no need it could indicate that they like you. This can take many forms. It may involve them deliberately being in places that they know you will be (like around your locker for example) or deliberately asking you questions that they don't need to ask (such as what the homework was when they are sitting next to their best friend). Either way a person making such an effort can show that they are attracted to you.
Shyness: A lot of people get shy (also known as being 'coy') when talking to someone that they have a crush on. Even a confident person may become visible more shy if they are talking to someone that they like. This shyness is often quite obvious and easy to spot, and can be one of the better indications that a person likes you.
Taking an interest in your love life: Very often when a person doesn't have the courage to ask you out they will ask about your other love interests in order to gauge the competition. This could also take the form of taking an unusual interest in your current boyfriend/girlfriend (moreso than a friend normally would). Again this is in an effort to scope out the competition. They may even make negative comments about your love interests. By comparison you will find that the person may be very secretive about their love interests.
They seek your attention: When a person likes you they will often try to get your attention at every available opportunity. The image of a girl dropping her books in front of an attractive guy so he picks them up is a cliched image, but it does happen more often to a lesser extent. This could take the form of more obvious maneouveres such as the example above, or it could take the form of changes to behaviour patterns such as talking louder.
Their friends tell you: Be careful with this one. It is often possible to find out from their friends whether or not a particular person likes you. But it is not generally a reliable source of information and can easily be the source of a practical joke, so be very wary when using this as a guide.
Body language: Depending on a person's personality, you can gauge their attraction to you by watching their body language. This does take some experience to spot, but is generally a good indication if you can read it well. Such signs include playing with their hair or constantly shifting position. It may also be a sign that someone likes you if they are constantly trying to make bodily contact with you, such as touching your arm or playful fighting with you. However, be wary that a lot of people are just flirtacious by nature. Bodily contact means very little well dealing with people like that.